A Little Something for Everyone

I am sure most of you must have given those personality test which claims to tell about you and your personality by the way you eat, sleep, date or month you were born in, your favorite flower, or by the color of pajamas you wear. Or you must have met an astrologer who knew more about you than you yourself just by reading your hand, face or even feet. You may be surprised to see how many people actually believe in these stuff, may be you did too? (Stop smiling now). Even if you did, it’s not your fault. So, do the astrologers really have the power to peak into your mind, body and soul? Or did the psychologists really did some research on color of our pajamas. Deep down inside, we all know that most of these things are bogus. So, why do people falls in trap of astrologers, palmist etc.? Why do people believe in these personality tests? The answer is simple it’s called the Forer Effect or the Barnum effect. Barnum statements are usually favorable and true for a larger group of people in the society.

In 1948, a famous psychologist Bertram R. Forer conducted an experiment in his class. He asked his students to complete a personality questionnaire and told them that they will be given an analysis of their personality on the basis of that questionnaire. In reality, all students were given the same profile, prepared by Forer by compiling together several statements from different horoscopes. It was consist of following statements:

1. You have a great need for other people to like and admire you.
2. You have a tendency to be critical of yourself.
3. You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.
4. While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate for them.
5. Your sexual adjustment has presented problems for you.
6. Disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside.
7. At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing.
8. You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.
9. You pride yourself as an independent thinker and do not accept others’ statements without satisfactory proof.
10. You have found it unwise to be too frank in reveling yourself to others.
11. At times you are extroverted, affable, and sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, reserved.
12. Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic.
13. Security is one of your major goals in life

Starting to sound like you, isn't it? That’s because these statements generally apply to every single one of us at one point or another in life. The students, unaware of this fact, were then asked to rate their profiles on a scale of 0(highly inaccurate) to 5(perfect). The class’ average rating was around 4.26! This was the first time when Barnum Effect was noticed. There’s no definite explanation as to why Barnum effect happens. It’s universal, unaffected by age, gender etc.

Barnum Effect is named after the famous showman P.T. Barnum who used to say “A circus should have a little something for everyone”; just like a Barnum profile has a little something for every personality. So, as you are aware of it now, next times onward don’t get fooled by the astrologers, psychic, or the pajama test who uses this trick on you. Always be skeptical and keep your money in your wallet.

Every Indian should know this......

Well on the occasion of our Independence day last week lot of people gave their opinions on our country through articles, blog, TV interviews etc, and what I have noticed is that most of them were talking about the crisis we are going through, the problems we are facing and how sick the people of our country has become especially men. And I am not denying any of them, yes this is a vicious and unfortunate reality of our nation right now, it’s been bitten by a deadly snake and the venom is spreading all over, and if measures are not taken the result can be fatal. Also it is important to discuss these issues because if we don’t ask questions than how can we find answers, if we don’t know the problem than how can we find the solutions. But on the other hand it is also important to keep this issues away for a while and remember the positive aspects of this great nation, its important to remember the scarifies people have made to give us freedom, its important to make the next generation aware of our culture, our civilization, and the contribution our country has made in the development of this world. It is important to understand that if the next generation will grow up listing to the news of hatred and enmity, than they will posses the same for country and people, and if we teach them how great our country is and make them aware of the treasures we possess then it will help us restore the sense of pride towards our motherland amongst them which seems to be lost nowadays.  So when lots of people are busy wondering “what is wrong with India?’ I have decided to take a different approach and tell everybody, “Yes, this is right about India”. Here are some facts about India which I think as a citizen of this country everybody should be aware of:

• India never invaded any country in her last 100000 years of history.
• When many cultures were only nomadic forest dwellers over 5000 years ago, Indians established Harappan culture in Sindhu Valley (Indus Valley Civilization)
• The name 'India' is derived from the River Indus, the valleys around which were the home of the early settlers. The Aryan worshipers referred to the river Indus as the Sindhu.
• The Persian invaders converted it into Hindu. The name 'Hindustan' combines Sindhu and Hindu and thus refers to the land of the Hindus.
• Chess was invented in India.
• Algebra, Trigonometry and Calculus are studies, which originated in India.
• The 'Place Value System' and the 'Decimal System' were developed in India in 100 B.C.
• The World's First Granite Temple is the Brihadeswara Temple at Tanjavur, Tamil Nadu. The shikhara of the temple is made from a single 80-tonne piece of granite. This magnificent temple was built in just five years, (between 1004 AD and 1009 AD) during the reign of Rajaraja Chola.
• India is the largest democracy in the world, the 7^th largest Country in the world, and one of the most ancient civilizations.
• The game of Snakes & Ladders was created by the 13th century poet saint Gyandev. It was originally called 'Mokshapat'. The ladders in the game represented virtues and the snakes indicated vices. The game was played with cowrie shells and dices. In time, the game underwent several modifications, but its meaning remained the same, i.e. good deeds take people to heaven and evil to a cycle of re-births.
• The world's highest cricket ground is in Chail, Himachal Pradesh. Built in 1893 after leveling a hilltop, this cricket pitch is 2444 meters above sea level.
• India has the largest number of Post Offices in the world.
• The largest employer in India is the Indian Railways, employing over a million people.
• The world's first university was established in Takshila in 700 BC. More than 10,500 students from all over the world studied more than 60 subjects. The University of Nalanda built in the 4th century was one of the greatest achievements of ancient India in the field of education.
• Ayurveda is the earliest school of medicine known to mankind. The Father of Medicine, Charaka, consolidated Ayurveda 2500 years ago.
• India was one of the richest countries till the time of British rule in the early 17th Century. Christopher Columbus, attracted by India's wealth, had come looking for a sea route to India when he discovered America by mistake.
• The Art of Navigation & Navigating was born in the river Sindh over 6000 years ago. The very word Navigation is derived from the Sanskrit word 'NAVGATIH'. The word navy is also derived from the Sanskrit word 'Nou'.
• Bhaskaracharya rightly calculated the time taken by the earth to orbit the Sun hundreds of years before the astronomer Smart. According to his calculation, the time taken by the Earth to orbit the Sun was 365.258756484 days.
• The value of "pi" was first calculated by the Indian Mathematician Budhayana, and he explained the concept of what is known as the Pythagorean Theorem. He discovered this in the 6th century, long before the European mathematicians.
• Algebra, Trigonometry and Calculus also originated in India.Quadratic Equations were used by Sridharacharya in the 11th century. The largest numbers the Greeks and the Romans used were 106 whereas Hindus used numbers as big as 10*53 (i.e. 10 to the power of 53) with specific names as early as 5000 B.C.during the Vedic period.Even today, the largest used number is Terra: 10*12(10 to the power of 12).
• Until 1896, India was the only source of diamonds in the world
  (Source: Gemological Institute of America).
• The Baily Bridge is the highest bridge in the world. It is located in the Ladakh valley between the Dras and Suru rivers in the Himalayan mountains. It was built by the Indian Army in August 1982.
• Sushruta is regarded as the Father of Surgery. Over2600 years ago Sushrata & his team conducted complicated surgeries like cataract, artificial limbs, cesareans, fractures, urinary stones, plastic surgery and brain surgeries.
• Usage of anaesthesia was well known in ancient Indian medicine. Detailed knowledge of anatomy, embryology, digestion, metabolism,physiology, etiology, genetics and immunity is also found in many ancient Indian texts.
• India exports software to 90 countries.
• The four religions born in India - Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, and Sikhism, are followed by 25% of the world's population.
• Jainism and Buddhism were founded in India in 600 B.C. and 500 B.C. respectively.
• Islam is India's and the world's second largest religion.
• There are 300,000 active mosques in India, more than in any other country, including the Muslim world.
• The oldest European church and synagogue in India are in the city of Cochin. They were built in 1503 and 1568 respectively.
• Jews and Christians have lived continuously in India since 200 B.C. and 52 A.D. respectively
• The largest religious building in the world is Angkor Wat, a Hindu Temple in Cambodia built at the end of the 11th century.
• The Vishnu Temple in the city of Tirupathi built in the 10th century, is the world's largest religious pilgrimage destination. Larger than either Rome or Mecca, an average of 30,000 visitors donate $6 million (US) to the temple everyday.
• Sikhism originated in the Holy city of Amritsar in Punjab. Famous for housing the Golden Temple, the city was founded in 1577.
• Varanasi, also known as Benaras, was called "the Ancient City" when Lord Buddha visited it in 500 B.C., and is the oldest, continuously inhabited city in the world today.
• India provides safety for more than 300,000 refugees originally from Sri Lanka, Tibet, Bhutan, Afghanistan and Bangladesh, who escaped to flee religious and political persecution.
• His Holiness, the Dalai Lama, the exiled spiritual leader of Tibetan Buddhists, runs his government in exile from Dharmashala in northern India.
• Martial Arts were first created in India, and later spread to Asia by Buddhist missionaries.
• Yoga has its origins in India and has existed for over 5,000 years.

       ( source: http://knowindia.gov.in/)

 You see, I know that each one of us is in need for a change, but the point is what price we are ready to pay for that change, what are the things we are ready to sacrifice for the change, and what are the contribution we are ready to make for the change. Don’t you think that the time has come for us to stop blaming other things for the problems our country is going through and be brave enough to accept the fact that each one of us is somehow responsible for it too? Somewhere some parent didn’t teach his son to respect women, somewhere someone forgot the importance of cleanliness, somewhere someone gave his or hers needs priority than his service. It’s not the country which is good or bad, it’s the people of the country. But the condition of our society has become so drastic that the world is laughing and the reputation of our nation has gone down. So let’s take an oath today that we will be the change what we want to see, we will fulfill our responsibilities with honesty, and more importantly we will set a good example in front of the next generation. We all are aware of the potentials and abilities we possess, only thing is that we need to learn to use in a proper way and teach others to do the same. So that once again we can become a world leader, so that once again can take pride in our culture and civilization, so that once again we can proudly say “Saare Jahaan se accha Hindustan humara”. Think about it!

The Funny Side of Indian Animation Industry!!

Well, if you are an aspiring, young Indian animator life isn't funny for you at all, especially after looking at the current scenario of our Indian animation industry. Just few years ago you had a dream of a glamorous, interesting, playful career in your heart. You nurtured it, you believed it, and most of you had also achieved it by getting a job in a studio or company. Bingo! You had your dream come true, experiencing the best day of your life. Finally you have proved the world especially your parents that you can face the world on your own, without having a clue that flames of delight will diminish quickly. And if you haven't experience it yet in your life, than ask your dream to wait for some time. How much? Well, it could be a day, a month or years, who knows? It's a funny business after all. Anybody who works in an animation studio like I do will tell you to reconsider your career prospects if you still have a time in your life.

But I know it isn't that easy, when you have so much passion for this field, you have always envisioned yourself as an animator or an artist and more than anything else when you have to recover those green bucks which you have invested in self-proclaimed 100% job guarantee institutes and animation programs. So what to do now? Well according to me and many experience talented animator that I work with, we have quite a few options with us in order to deal with it:-

•1) Change the field: - If you are not passionate enough about animation this isn't a thing for you at first place anyhow. So the wisest thing to do for you probably will be to pack your bags and move on. Find your true passion and work on it, you have nothing to lose here accept those green bucks, but once you'll find your true love, money won’t matter at all and you will earn it back in no time without much effort.

•2) Keep patience: - If there isn't anything much you can do about it than the best thing is to hang on and wait for the tide to turn, especially when you don't have added responsibilities on your shoulders. Spend your time learning more about this art and try to improve each and every day. If possible spend few more bucks on those reputed animation programs available online, many of them can give you a valuable insight on this market and it also helps you to increase your network at international circuit. So keep patience and play the waiting game and remember "Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.

•3) Be the change: - As the famous quote from Mahatma Gandhi goes "You have to be the change you want to see in the world. If you are passionate enough and stubborn enough like me, then the best thing for us is to accept all three points in our life. Didn't get? Let me explain it! The world is unfair and we have to accept it no matter what. There will be obstacles in our way and some of them will be intemperate to deal with. The more we will try to fight the more there will be an equal and opposite reaction. So the best advice for us comes from the movie Rocky balboa " Just get hit and keep moving forward" We can’t just hinge upon our company to pay us for our daily requisites, we have to keep doing what we love and find a new source of income along with it. By changing the field I mean changing it for a particular period of hours in day which will help us to fulfill our necessities at some extent, a part time job, an online business or free-lance work is the best option. Because it's not just about our passion it's also about our responsibilities towards our near and dear once. The things I have elaborated in point number 2 also applies to all of us whether you are a newbie or an experienced artist, as they say we should never stop learning. Well I won't stretch on it as you are intelligent enough to understand it. And as we accept the first two points in our life we automatically becomes the change what we want to see.

Hope it will help you to cope with the situation and make a wise choice for your life. And as far as our industry is concern, I hope our experts will take some necessary steps in order to get it back on track. With sound management and government support things can turn positive and people like us can continue doing what we love to do with rightful returns .Till then "KEEP ANIMATING THE LIFE"!

5 Life Lessons we can learn from Bruce Lee

Bruce Lee is undoubtedly one of the most popular and influential person who ever walked on this planet earth. He is the guy who single handedly brought many changes in the world of cinema, sports, and culture. At the time when Asians where looked down in the western world, this guy went ahead and brought the east and west a lot closer than expected, which opened many opportunities for both sides. He inspired many next generation stars and revolutionized martial arts. Besides from being an artist and sportsmen he was a philosopher, a man full of wisdom and knowledge, he always taught his students to look beyond and to be original. It was this ability of him which earned him enormous admiration and fame in spite of doing just 4 films and dying at an early age of just 32.  Here are the 5 lessons according to me we can learn from this great personality and the ultimate warrior through his quotes which can act as a guiding manual to pursue our dreams and tackle the problems:

1] Be like Water and always adapt

“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.

Empty your mind; be formless, shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” ― Bruce Lee

“Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.” ― Bruce Lee

“Take things as they are. Punch when you have to punch. Kick when you have to kick.” ― Bruce Lee

2] Be Original

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it― Bruce Lee

“Showing off is the fool's idea of glory.” ―Bruce Lee

“For it is easy to criticize and break down the spirit of others, but to know yourself takes a lifetime.”

 ― Bruce Lee

“Many people dedicate their lives to actualizing a concept of what they should be like, rather than actualizing themselves. ― Bruce Lee

“This difference between self-actualization and self-image actualization is very important. Most people live only for their image” ― Bruce Lee

3] Be a sincere student and develop your true potential

“A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.” 

― Bruce Lee

“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who had practiced one kick 10,000 times.” ― Bruce Lee

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done.” ―Bruce Lee

“Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.” ―Bruce Lee

“Use only that which works, and take it from any place you can find it.” ― Bruce Lee

“Empty your cup so that it may be filled; become devoid to gain totality.” ― Bruce Lee

“To spend time is to pass it in a specified manner. To waste time is to expend it thoughtlessly or carelessly. We all have time to either spend or waste and it is our decision what to do with it. But once passed, it is gone forever. ― Bruce Lee

“Time means a lot to me because you see I am also a learner and am often lost in the joy of forever developing.” ― Bruce Lee

“Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one's potential.”

 ―Bruce Lee

“Obey the principles without being bound by them.” ― Bruce Lee

4] Don’t listen to Naysayers

“The doubters said,

"Man cannot fly,"

The doers said,

"Maybe, but we'll try,"

And finally soared

In the morning glow

While non-believers

Watched from below.” ―Bruce Lee

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

 ― Bruce Lee

5] Believe in yourself and your ability

“If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” ― Bruce Lee

“Don't fear failure. — Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail. 

― Bruce Lee

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” ―Bruce Lee

“Defeat is not defeat unless accepted as a reality-in your own mind.” ―Bruce Lee

“Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster man. But sooner or later the man who wins, is the man who thinks he can.” ― Bruce Lee

“If you think a thing is impossible, you’ll only make it impossible.” ― Bruce Lee

“Do not allow negative thoughts to enter your mind for they are the weeds that strange confidence.” ― Bruce Lee

It is unfortunate that Bruce lee left this world at an early age, but at the same time he achieved everything he ever dreamed of and fulfilled his life’s purpose. His legacy still continues and his teachings still inspires many of us to fearlessly follow our dreams and goals. He is the great example of how one man can change the world.If you know any Bruce lee quote which can be added here please share with us.

25 Inspiring Quotes to bring a Progressive Change in Your Attitude

What separates successful people from an average Joe is there attitude towards life and things they undertake. Well as we know that most of them are generally optimistic but they do understand that life is a complex matter and there will be many obstacles in our way to success and achievements.   But where most of the average people surrender, these individuals tries to rise above it and turn these stones into milestones. And what assist them in these matters are there great attitude and the way they approach things. And the good news is these individuals are always ready to teach others how they cope up with such circumstances and achieved what we always dream of. Here are 25 quotes from some of the most influential people in history which will help you to deal with the situation and bring a much needed change in your attitude and understanding towards life, so be a pirate and try to steal as much treasure as you can:

1}1} “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”

-Thomas A. Edison

2} “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

-Michael Jordan

3} “If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”

-Bruce Lee

4} “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”

-Albert Einstein

5} “Everybody has goals, aspirations or whatever, and everybody has been at a point in their life where nobody believed in them.”

-Eminem

6} “The best revenge is massive success.”

 -Frank Sinatra

6} “I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”

-Muhammad Ali

7} “Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.”

-Martin Luther

8} “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”

-Mahatma Gandhi

9} “When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.  When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I wrote down ‘happy’.  They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”

–John Lennon

10} “I am not thinking too far ahead, just want to take it one thing at a time.”

-Sachin Tendulkar

11} “I'm a slow walker, but I never walk back.”

-Abraham Lincoln

12} “Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward.”

-Henry Ford

13} “Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.”

-Arnold Schwarzenegger

14} “We all need people who will give us feedback. That's how we improve.”

-Bill Gates

15} “Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”

-Steve Jobs

16} “It's always good to be underestimated.”

-Donald Trump

17} “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you'll do things differently.”

-Warren Buffett

18} “Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.”

-Mother Teresa

17} “I do not know anyone who has got to the top without hard work. That is the recipe. It will not always get you to the top, but should get you pretty near.”

-Margaret Thatcher

18} “All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”

-Walt Disney

19} “If I were given the opportunity to present a gift to the next generation, than it would be the ability for each individual to learn to laugh at himself.”

-Charles M. Schulz

20} “If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.”

-Maya Angelou

21} “My biggest motivation? Just to keep challenging myself. I see life almost like one long University education that I never had — everyday I’m learning something new.”
- Richard Branson

22} “If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.”
- Napoleon Hill

23}” Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”

-John F. Kennedy

24} “I do not know what I may appear to the world, but to myself I seem to have been only like a boy playing on the seashore, and diverting myself in now and then finding a smoother pebble or a prettier shell than ordinary, whilst the great ocean of truth lay all undiscovered before me.”

-Isaac Newton

 (And the last but not the least is a quote from a movie but I think this is the best advice given to anybody by anybody because it reflects the reality of life, it is something which helps me to deal with challenges that comes in my way, this is something which helps me to stay motivated and this is something which keeps me moving forward and it goes like this)

25} “Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place, and I don't care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that! I'm always gonna love you, no matter what. No matter what happens. You're my son and you're my blood. You're the best thing in my life. But until you start believing in yourself, you ain't gonna have a life.”
― Sylvester Stallone, Rocky Balboa

These are few quotes which motivate me to keep moving towards my goals and dreams. Are there quotes which inspire you or have brought change in your life and attitude? I’ll be glad if you can share with us quotes like these and give us an opportunity to learn from you.

Life with mistakes….

‘A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing’- George Bernard Shaw.

             Are you the one who keeps on doing mistakes? Are you the one, who always tries to do well but the result is always contradictory? Are you the one on whom everybody is laughing for the things you have done? Are you embarrassed about it? Do you feel guilty? Than what are you waiting for, just pick up the phone and order our new product ‘Mistakenator’ now. This magical product will help you to turn back the time and let you correct your mistakes. Now pinch yourself and come back to reality, I know you are hoping for same kind of magical product which can make things fall back to places. But you are also intelligent enough to know that such things do not exist no matter what, at least till now.

              So, you have committed some mistake and now you are probably embarrassed about it and searching for the ways to overcome it. This is the one reason you are reading this article, and reading the above quote already made you feel good about it. But hey, you are not here just to feel good, you are here in a search, a search for solution, a search for the answer and a search for something that will help you to correct your mistakes. Congratulate yourself for doing so, because this proves that you are not the one who depends upon circumstances, you are a proactive individual who wants to make things happen, that’s why you made those mistakes too. Let me be sincere with you, this article is not about finding solution for a particular mistake as that will be unfeasible to do so considering the fact that there are so many types of mistakes people commits. But the following points will some what assist you to find that sense of balance and solidity in your thoughts which is a vital element to deal with your situation. So keep reading.

Nobody is perfect: - Yes it is true; I have not seen any individual in this world who has not done a single mistake in his life. So what are you so embarrassed about. Common cheer up, its just human nature, we are not god after all, what has happened we cannot change it, so what is the point in dwelling upon the thought of embarrassment and guiltiness. In fact I have seen that even the individuals to whom we calls ‘The Great Ones’ has also done so many thwarting things in life. Take for example the lives of legends like, Mahatma Gandhi or Benjamin Franklin. Do we remember them for there blunders, No! Not at all, but for the great deeds they did for their community.  The point here is if your mistakes are incurable than just don’t dwell on it, just move ahead and do something superior or accomplish something great that will outshine your faults.

Blessing in disguise:- Mistakes a lot of time are not as awful as they seem, and even when they are, they also gives us the opportunity to grow stronger, to realize ourselves, and the best part, to recognize those around us. Yes, we also finds a lot about people whom we call loved once, whether its our friends, families, co-workers. The way they respond or behave with you during this face of your life clearly states their faithfulness and love for you. Apart from all this, mistakes of few individuals have made many scientific discoveries and inventions in this world. I will not go in much detail of that, but the point here is to tell you that mistake can be a stepping stone for your next best inventions, just keep experimenting.

When Sh*t happens, turn it into fertilizer: - I could have used the lemonade example but it’s not the word that comes out of our mouth when we commit a mistake. It’s the ‘S’ word. Right! Okay the quote here is not essential, what is important is that how you use your situation for your benefit from here on. If you’ll listen to successful people most of the time they will not talk about the things they have achieved but the mistakes they have done and the hardship they have gone through in their lives, this also helps them to generate more followers. Well their objective is not that though, but still they know how to use such things for their advantage. So it’s your job now to analyze the things in your life, create it into a byproduct and sell it. Because you have been their and done that. If you have just overcome drug addiction, just go ahead and help others to do so, if your relationship is broken because of you, than teach others what not to do in a relationship, if you have lied to somebody just go and tell them the truth before they finds out themselves, this will help you to preserve that trust in their eyes if the person is really understanding. Just somehow stop thinking about what has happened and think about what good can come out of it.  As John Maxwell once said ‘A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them and strong enough to correct them.’  

Life Goes on: - Mistakes can be awful and embarrassing at this point in your lives, but years later, these collection of mistakes are called experience. And it is this collection of experiences that helps us to understand our life and world around us making us stronger, better and understanding person. No matter who you are and what you are, things will still go wrong in our life, mistakes will still happen, but just don’t repeat the same mistake twice, forgive yourself but don’t forget, learn from it and move on as life goes on.

            I hope these small advises might help you to deal with your situation, but at the end of the day if anybody can help you is you yourself. You already have what it takes to deal with it. No matter how many article, books or quotes you read your search for that peace will never end unless until you start searching at the right place i.e. within.

A Bird in the Cage

Look at this bird in the cage,

We know he is in pain,

Everyday he dreams of one thing,

Will he ever fly again…?

Look at this bird in the cage,

It looks so beautiful from outside,

All we see is its calmness,

Try to see its tears which he drinks inside…

Look at this bird in the cage,

In front of him lies the endless sky,

But how unfortunate is his destiny,

In spite of wings he can’t fly…..

Look at this bird in the cage,

We say, we have to pay in this life for the sin we have created,

This really questions our belief,

I wonder what wrong this innocent bird might have committed,

Look at this bird in the cage,

He lost everything from the movement he was caught,

His life, his family, his freedom and what else not,

But still he is alive, with a ray of hope in his heart,

That one day he will be free and fly away, which is now present in his thoughts…..

Loneliness,

Loneliness,

It’s hard to express how it feel,

One curse of life which is difficult to deal.

When it comes, everything in life begins to haunts,

It is one punishment that no one wants.

Blessed are those who didn’t get caught in its trap,

Even a lonely millionaire realizes that all else is just a scrap.

It is the worst of them all as they say,

Even the strongest can fall and become it’s pray.

It makes the sweetest victory taste very bitter,

As you have no one to share, than it really doesn't matter.

It makes one take needless and vicious steps,

Endangering their life, so awful is its effects.

It’s just an illusion that the world is walking along,

Even in crowd, the heart cries as no where it belongs.

Sometimes its temporary, sometime it looks permanent in life,

Even a thought of it can cut like a knife.

But like many other obstacles its life’s way to teach you,

Stop mourning even if this evil has reach you,

The time has gone to do some self pity,

God will not test one beyond its limits and capacity.

But now the question is how this evil can be conquered,

Search in your heart it’s already answered,

A misconception one holds is that he thinks he is the only,

Look around there are so many lonely,

All one has to do is find one from many of those,

Two comes together and life begins to smell like rose.

Life has taught me......

Life has taught me not to expect from some love in return….

         Because for them, it’s just an instrument of fun…

Life has taught me not to expect more than you deserve…

         Because some people will take even your share of reserve…

Life has taught me no matter how much you care…

         When you need the most some people will never be there…

Life has taught me the best way to earn someone’s trust is

          Not to break it at first…

          But some people will keep on doing it without realizing how much it hurts…..

Life has taught me some people really love you a lot…

          If they just don’t show it, it doesn't mean they do not…. 

Life has taught me always do what needs to be done

          For your loved once today…

          Because who knows, by tomorrow, they will be far far away….

Life has taught me your responsibilities are more important than your passion….

          Because once you fulfill your duties, that’s when god helps you to become

           The person

          Of your imagination….

Life has taught me, Even the best friend will hurt you now and then…

          Sometimes they make you face the reality you didn’t expect when…. 

Life has taught me, a fake friend is far more dangerous than a beast…

          Because a beast will only hurt you externally…..  

          But a friend’s betrayal will take your inner peace….

 Life has taught me even you have nothing left to give,

           But when a friend comes crying, you will find a way to help

           And gives them a reason to live...  

Life has taught me, when you’re on top, always possess humility and never show egos…

           Because life will pay you accordingly when everything else goes….

Life has taught me not to mourn on my troubles or fear…

           Because when I get out and look at the world, comparatively they are

           No way near….   

Life has taught me time doesn't always heal….

           But it does give you strength to choose about how you feel…

Life has taught me that laughter is really the best medicine...

           Because when you become the reason behinds someone laughter, it feels like

           You have been forgiven for all your sins…

 Life has taught me heroes are those who have overcome all the odds,

            We call them chosen one by the gods,

             We dream of becoming like them, and try to get respect they have earned….

              Without realizing that, at the end

It’s not about what life teaches you, it’s about what you have learned….